When nothing goes right...go left!
Date: Monday, May 04, 2015I keep looking at my scarcely updated blog and wondering why the slump? I've been in them before but they usually fix themselves before long. They've not lasted for a year or more, yet here I am.
There was a time long ago in my early scene years where I thought I liked training submissives. I was good at it. It was a point of pride. Breaking someone down and rebuilding them in your image sounds like every dominant's dream. But, it takes time and dedication and a lot of patience. I find myself very short on all of these. If I'm being honest the new sub/bf has been much more than I ever bargained for. Navigating polyamory and kink at the same time is proved to be a rather daunting task. If I focus too much on one then the other gets pushed to the back burner.
How is a domme to do it all?
Do you ever feel exhausted by kink? Like the lifestyle requires much more than you can give it?
It's a terrible self depreciating cycle. I lack the desire to do kink but when I try to muster the energy and I fail to do it properly I lose the desire.
How much of a D/s relationship falls to the dominant to initiate? Where does/how the submissive suggest play without sounding like they're topping from the bottom?
I can't tell if this is better or worse than a vanilla sexual slump.
I can't tell if this is better or worse than a vanilla sexual slump.
I promised myself that this year I'd fall back in love with kink but what if kink just doesn't want to fall in love with me?